The recent hacking and stealing of data from the Ashley Madison site, where mainly men registered with the intention of cheating on their partners, raises a very topical question – how to act in the face of infidelity? How to react? What to say? What decision to make – to forgive or to leave?
How to act in the face of betrayal? – Do not make a decision hastily
It may seem impossible, after all, at the first moment we want to scream, cry, throw objects. This instinct to inflict immediate punishment, however, try to cool down. Collect your thoughts. If you need to leave the house, postpone the conversation and arrange in your head all the questions you want to ask. Lay out a plan of action, too!
Remember that what matters is under what circumstances you found out about your partner’s infidelity. Did he admit it himself, or did you suspect him of it beforehand? Also think about what you plan to do in the next few hours. Are you going to go home? Or will you feel better spending the night at a friend’s house? You need to cool down!
How to act in the face of betrayal? – Don’t retaliate
Some women choose a rather extreme method of revenge. They also decide to cheat. Unfortunately, another man is not the solution to the problems with a cheating partner. The only thing you will gain is remorse and a moral hangover the next day.
How to act in the face of betrayal? – Consider going back
Although your first thought may be to move as far away as possible and cut off all contact, you should nevertheless consider returning, forgiving and trying to arrange your life with such an unpleasant memory. When is it worth considering? In a situation where you have been together for a long time, if there have been a lot of disagreements between you recently as a result of problems beyond your control, the betrayal was made after alcohol, it was only once, and he really regrets it.
Of course, there is no excuse for infidelity, but there are extenuating circumstances. Above all, us back think only when you love!
How to act in the face of betrayal? – Consider breaking up
Sometimes there is nothing left to collect. Unfortunately, people break up, and although betrayal in such a case is the worst way to go about it, you need to reflect and make an account of the whole relationship. Answer yourself whether it’s worth the effort and struggle? Are you together for a long time? Are the betrayals recurring? Did it last a long time and turn into an affair? Are you able to trust your partner after what he did? Remember that building a relationship on mistrust, following, checking and waiting for the worst will only poison your life!
Above all, ask yourself is there anything to fight for? Was it a good relationship, were you happy in it?
